We are forever wanting to teach our kids …something or the other.The problem is just because we are older , we parents sometimes feel we are in a position of authority to put down our opinions about life and how it should be lived …as rules. Rules which should get redundant because times, exposure and understandings have changed.
This works till our kids are in environments which are comfortable spaces for us.. places where we have grown. And then a time comes when it stops working. We come down from that high chair of knowing more than them. We start seeing that our understanding of the world around us has limitations too… but we resist as our position of authority keeps making us feel otherwise.We keep believing wholeheartedly in our own version of our story and it’s righteousness. We sometimes forget , everything has changed … the characters , the plot , the circumstances, the exposure.The protagonists now are different. Though they come from us and we have created them …..our kids have grown up into their own people who are writing their own stories on the face of the earth. And we are watching and sometimes judging and comparing their stories with ours.And when we listen more and step down from that high horse we have been riding which made us feel that we know it better since we have clocked in more years on this planet……we grow as people and parents.
It is good to see their self assured , very straight forward versions and it makes me sigh with the satisfaction of fulfilling my legacy of what I had set out to do with my parenting… freeing my kids go much further than us. Becoming people who are seeing and experiencing life from their own eyes, ears and their own understandings.
The opportunity to see another way of living and getting advise on our work and life from our kids gives us parents a huge high….Glad I have reached there thanks to my children who very often show me the other side and keep making me step out of my very old shoes. The pressure of teaching them and doing everything right for them is gone. The current scenario has changed. My kids are teaching me everyday and they don’t judge and nudge and are more patient. And I am loving it!
Keep pushing me my children, keep making me want to grow, step out from my comfort zone and to hopefully become a more interesting version of me.
Let’s all, let our kids force us to step down from that Silly Slow High Horse we have been riding!