Obsessed are we? and should we be? with making Our children turn out good!

Funny how we parents can turn any and every situation into a life lesson for our children.A lot of us are guilty of the above big time…. and have used many situations, good or bad, difficult and fun to fish out various life lessons to our children. Hope we have succeeded in our trying to live up to their expectations of walking the talk. Life lessons like “be part of a circle of  good people” ,”the world won’t give whatever you want on a platter”, “life isn’t a bed of roses always”,  “look out for your happiness”,” work hard and dream big”, stay away from toxic people” etc etc. We talk to them constantly and what we tell them becomes their inner voice, not to skip mentioning that sometimes we talk a little too too much … and a lot we say gets lost in oblivion. And then we live our lives, either true to what we say , or the exact opposite to how we expect them to live when they grow up. Children are a huge responsibility, the time we take the decision of having them, we are stuck and hopefully happily so to be the best version of ourselves always. They are watching us closely instead of listening to us intently and that I am sure must be unnerving if we are living a pretentious life. Because, I guess the universal fact which nobody can refute is that we all want our children to turn out good!

The world seems to be getting less tolerant and not so happy day by day. There must be something wrong in how we humans are approaching our children’s sensibilities and how we are parenting them. We have been hearing a quotation from centuries” A well balanced, happy home, well adjusted happy children”! But are we walking the talk? It’s easier for homes with well balanced relationships and very difficult in homes who have unfortunately seen it tough. We might have ended up with a raw deal and even if our life isn’t going to be perfect we still can’t absolve ourselves from the responsibility of keeping our children away from all that drama and toxicity. And it is , I know easier said then done as life throws at us loads of negatives too.

 We are trying our hardest to give the best to our children and meeting their physical  and intellectual needs. and hopefully also their emotional needs. Our goal for our children is seeing them happy forever, but is that a realistic goal. If we teach them that their happiness is the constant they need to aim for, the ” be happy ”  life lesson being given out by everyone in the universe , is going to be a very bad deal and  might contribute to becoming the biggest menace of the modern world. Instead we need to teach them to take that hard decision, to give back to make others happy, to adjust, to adapt and stand for their true selves, look for peace within themselves and contribute to make the world around us a more peaceful place.

So life lessons are important and my poor children will keep getting them till whatever time they are even a little willing to listen. I am evolving  and my growth is helping me see the world in shades of grey and understand that my reality isn’t the only reality possible. And hence the life lessons I am so continuously giving out are, I think becoming more and more sensible. Praying for myself and all the parents out there to have the courage to walk the talk forever and ever!