Abuse is common. World statistics are alarming, about 1 in 5 girls and 1 in 8 boys are sexually abused before they reach the age of 18. Most abusers are known by the victim.Teens are learning about sex. Often their sources may not be the best places to get the facts on sex. These sources include their friends, pornography or first-hand experiences.
Children & Teenagers need to be educated about the following:
- Their bodies are theirs.. There is a difference between good, bad, and confusing touch. Past permission does not obligate them to future activity.
- They should trust their instincts and should nor do anything they don’t want to do.
- It is not okay for them to engage in sexual behavior with adults, peers, family or friends.
- They should protest when adults try to take pictures or video of them in sexual positions or unclothed.
- Pornography is not an accurate depiction of real life and has no connection to real meaning of relationships.
- Alcohol and drugs may make it hard to maintain their boundaries and can cloud their judgment. Touching someone sexually while they are drunk is abuse.
- Adults should not discuss their sexual fantasies or share pornography with minors.
Many children who get caught up in an inappropriate relationship with an adult or a peer end up blaming themselves. They do not know what their personal rights are or what kind of behavior to expect from adults. Often teenagers think they are supposed to respect their elders and be nice, so they go along with things that make them uncomfortable because they feel obligated.
- Recognize the problem early . Stay Alert.
- Accept and recognize your teenager’s right to say no to physical attention.
- Teach them that it is all right to say no. The teenagers should trust their feelings of discomfort, no matter who the person in question is. It is okay to say no unwanted hugs, pats on your buttocks, and touching that confuses or bothers them.
- Educate teenagers that it is wrong for someone to ask them not to tell their parents and keep secrets about anything.
- Take what your teenager says seriously. Pay attention to warning signs, including your own intuitive hunches about what is a secure, safe environment. Abusers are often nice people from nice families.
- Never insist that a reluctant child kiss a relative or friend of the family. This teaches the child that adults expect him to submit to unwanted familiarity.
- Encourage children to value their privacy and personal space.
- On the other hand also don’t stifle the teenager’s ability to give and receive affection. And don’t instil an inappropriate mistrust of adults.