Studying is not so hard! Check out these Study Skills.


STUDY SKILLS 

1.Study difficult (or boring) subjects first.
If your chemistry problems put you to sleep, get to them first, while you are fresh. Save the subjects you enjoy for later – you’ll be more motivated to do those later on. With that chore out of the way, the rest of the day can be a breeze.
2. Find your best time to study.
Many successful people begin their day around 5 a.m. The day is quiet and peaceful. Other people come awake and alive after dark, and do their best work during the night hours. Find out which time is most productive for you and schedule your day around making that time available to study.
3. Use time between classes and activities.
Using small bits of time to review information can later save you hours. Be prepared to review notes, or have formulas or definitions on index cards ready to go over. That hour between lunch and your next class is a great time to start a reading assignment.
4. Find a regular study area.
By using a particular area to study, you train your mind and body to expect to study when you arrive at your study place. Try to avoid doing other things at your study place (playing games, eating, goofing off) so that your mind does not get mixed messages about what you are supposed to do at your study place.
5. Study where you will be alert.
In bed your body gets the signal “time to sleep” rather than “study time”. For that reason, don’t study where you sleep! Just as you train your body to be alert at your desk, you train your body to slow down near your bed. The library is a great place for learning. The lighting is perfect. The noise level is low. Materials are available. Most people can get more done in a shorter time at the library.
6. Learn to say no.
This is a time saver and a valuable life skill for everyone. Many people feel it is rude to refuse a request, but saying no can be done effectively and courteously. Others want you to succeed as a student. When you tell them that you can’t do what they ask because you are busy educating yourself, most people will understand.
7. Pay attention to your attention, don’t lose focus.
Breaks in concentration are often caused by internal interruptions. Stay on task. If you notice you are thinking of the TV show you just watched instead of the IEA problems in front of you, take a minute to reestablish your concentration.
8. Avoid noise distractions.
Avoid studying in front of the television and turn off the stereo to keep your attention on your work. Many students insist that they study better with background noise, and that may be true, but in most cases quiet is best. Schedule your study times when your living quarters are usually quiet. Quiet hours are a great time to get work done and that ‘is why we have them. Of course, there are always earplugs!
9. Am I being too hard on myself?

Take a minute and listen to the messages that you are giving yourself. Are you scolding yourself too harshly? Lighten up. Allow yourself to feel foolish and get on with the task at hand.
10. Can I do anything today that I would have to do tomorrow?
Ask yourself this question at the end of a long day. Almost always you will have enough energy to do just one more short task. If you get in the habit of working until you are done and then doing one more thing, those end-of-the-day tasks will soon add up. The overall increase in your productivity might surprise you.

Are you keeping an eye…. Your child is being bullied or is Bullying at school.

Bullying is a reality in school settings and has to be dealt with. The incidence of Bullying increases in the Teenage Stage.

Types of Bullying

Verbal Bullying includes making threats, name-calling ,saying mean things.
Psychological Bullying is excluding from play, spreading rumors, making teenagers a topic of ridicule.
Physical Bullying is intimidating through actual hitting, pushing, taking a teenager’s possessions.
Direct Bullying like Hitting, kicking, shoving, spitting, taunting, teasing, racial slurs, verbal harassment, threatening, and making obscene gestures.
Indirect Bullying like getting another person to bully someone for you, spreading rumors , deliberately excluding someone from a group or activity and Cyber-bullying

Signs of Bullying
•Increased passivity or withdrawal
•Frequent crying  or over sensitive nature
•Recurrent complaints of physical symptoms such as stomach- or headaches with no apparent cause  or Unexplained bruises
•Sudden drop in grades, or other learning problems
•Not wanting to go to school  or to go outside and play
••Sudden change in the way the teenager talks — calling herself a loser, or a former friend a jerk
•Most studies find that boys bully more than do girls
•Boys report being bullied by boys; girls report being bullied by boys and girls
•Boys are more likely than girls to be physically bullied by their peers
•Girls are more likely to be bullied through rumor-spreading, sexual comments, social exclusion

Teenagers don’t  want to come to the parents  and tell them about the bullying because they believe that if they  say or do something about it, the bullying might get worse.  Sometimes they are right in their fears, but if the parent handles the complaint  right, more often than not, the bullying will stop.

What can you do  as a parent?

  •  Realize that bullying is  fact of life in many schools
  • Remain  involved to know if your teen in a victim or a bully
  • Bully-proof your child by keeping teenagers self esteem high
  • Keep talking to them about school and their experiences.
  • Teach them to stand for their rights and always tell and share experiences of bullying even when they witness it happening to someone else.
  • Approach the school  and teachers if child’s complaints are not heard, ask the school to be answerable.

Why too much and unmonitored Internet usage for teenagers is not okay!

The cyber revolution is bringing  with it risks  through Desktop and laptop computers located at home, friend’s homes, work, libraries, stores, schools, Internet cafes, wireless connections, PDA/BlackBerry, Cell phones, Internet capable games (i.e., Xbox, Play station). These risks are huge and are everywhere in form of :

  • Sexting which is the sending sexual messages, pictures, or videos through cell phones.
  • Easy access to pornography. Teenagers who can’t browse through a sexually explicit magazine in a store can easily view explicit images and video online.
  • Cyber Bullying. Through use of chat rooms, e-mail, instant messaging, “blogs” and even on-line games, adult strangers can establish direct one-to-one contact with  teenagers.Teenagers  can be easily mislead to do things that they ordinarily would not do.  It is easy for a teenager  to reveal more, sometimes much more, than they should.
  • Video Networking– U Tube registrations are fairly easy and have Graphic and explicit videos – pornography, violence, pedophilia. Unsolicited “push” pornography and  e-mail links are very prevalent and are sent to everyone – including  teenagers  and children.
  • Teenagers  using search engines to locate legitimate information can receive links to pornographic sites.

Warning signs. Set off the  alarm  if your teenager:

•Significantly increases on-line time.

•Receives phone calls or sms’s  or email from someone you don’t know.

•Quickly exits  chat, email, websites and other activities when you are close by.

•Increases use of new slang words,  has inappropriate  interest in getting sexual knowledge, withdraws from family and friends.

•Begins using new screen names or an online account belonging to someone .

•Is reluctant to discuss what activities  is  he involved in .

What can  you do  as a parent?

•Learn everything you can about computers, the Internet and related technology. Develop and maintain proficiency through use.

•Take time to discuss concerns; agree on ground rules for computer and internet usage. Set reasonable  rules and  expectations. •Place the computer in a “well-trafficked” area and not in the  bedroom or a secluded area.

•Ensure that they do not divulge detailed personal information on chat , mails or social networking sites.

•Know your Teenager’s  account password(s) and screen name(s).

•Consider use of Computer and Internet  Management Software that can filter and block adult content. View history of internet usage and check  lists of  web sites visited and  chat sessions.

Don’t we often forget the 5 Facts about our Child’s Brain?


1. CHILDHOOD IS KEY.
The brain makes the most connections among its cells before your child turns 10. This is also the time when he learns language best.
2. THE BRAIN BUILDS ITSELF BASED ON REPETITIVE SENSORY EXPERIENCES.
The language portion of the brain is enhanced greatly by interaction with others because the brain can then connect words with objects and experiences.
3. MOVEMENT GETS THE BRAIN GOING.
An active body makes for an active brain.
4. STRESS DISABLES LEARNING.
Cortisol, a hormone that kills off connections in the learning and memory parts of the brain, is produced during trauma. While you can’t (and shouldn’t) protect your child from all stressors, a close relationship with you and other caring adults will help her learn to cope and to feel good about herself.
5. MUSIC BOOSTS LEARNING.
Singing, listening to, and playing music improves spatial orientation and mathematical thinking. Plus, rhyming builds language skills.

Why Harsh Discipline practices are not good for Children?

Harsh Discipline which involves hitting, spanking or verbal abuse should not be used under any circumstances. Children who are spanked, hit, or slapped are more prone to fighting with other children. They are more likely to be bullies and more likely to use aggression to solve disputes with others. These practices teach children to handle upsetting or difficult situations with aggression.

Physical punishment doesn’t work also because it makes the child hate himself and others. Physical punishment makes the child think that there must be something awfully wrong with her to be treated so badly. If children think they are “bad,” then they will act “bad.” A vicious cycle is formed. The child who has been treated harshly has no reason to be good. Or she may be good just to keep from being punished and not learn to be good because she thinks it is the right thing to do. Children who have been spanked feel that they have paid for their misbehavior and are free to misbehave again. In other words, spanking frees the child from feelings of remorse which are needed to prevent future misbehavior.Parents who use physical punishment are setting an example of using violence to settle problems or solve conflicts, Children imitate their parents’ behavior. When parents use physical punishment, children are more likely to use violent acts to settle their conflicts with others.

What  harsh discipline practices parents should not use?

• Physical punishment – slapping, spanking, throwing things at children

•Verbal punishment – shaming, ridiculing, using cruel words, saying “I don’t love you.”

Parents who spank their children rather than using other discipline methods usually say: “Nothing else works.”, “You’ve got to let kids know who is boss.”, “They asked for it”, “I was spanked and I turned out OK.”

Reasons for spanking which parents seldom give are:

  • They are mad at their husband or wife and take it out on the child.
  • They are angry and don’t stop to think of better ways to discipline.
  • They don’t know how to discipline more effectively.
  • It relieves their feelings of frustration.
  • It is easier, quicker, and requires less thinking than other discipline methods.

What effective discipline practices should parents use?

Withholding rewards – “You can’t watch TV if you don’t do your homework.”

Penalties – “You broke the window so you will have to pay for it with money from your allowance.”

Effective discipline helps children learn to control their behavior so that they act according to their ideas of what is right and wrong, not because they fear punishment. For example, they are honest because they think it is wrong to be dishonest, not because they are afraid of getting caught.

Using Consequences as a Form of Discipline

Letting children experience the consequences of their decisions is a “hassle-free” way to discipline young people. Children learn from experiences, just like adults. We call it learning the “hard way.” The child learns that every act has a consequence for which he is responsible. Parents can declare that the consequence of not coming to the dinner table in time to eat is that the child does not eat his dinner that evening. Hunger is a natural consequence of not eating. If the child complains, mother can say, “I’m sorry you feel hungry now. It’s too bad, but you’ll have to wait for breakfast.” The child who experiences the unpleasant consequences of his behavior will be less likely to act that way again.

The differences between consequences and punishment are:

Consequences Punishment
calm tone of voice angry tone of voice
friendly but firm attitude hostile attitude
willing to accept the child’s decision unwilling to give a choice

 

 

 

Are we stressing ourselves and our kids to memorize things that don’t really matter?

Most of us think that having a good memory is a trait that’s outside of our control. But good memory is a skill and learning how to improve it can help you become a more creative and  innovative.The first step is changing the way you  think about your memory. Your memory isn’t designed to remember names, find missing keys, or store every password you’ve ever created. Your memory is designed to work in context. For example, if you try to make a list of every vegetable  you can remember, you will make a much longer list if you imagine walking through a grocery store.

“What your memory is really for is giving you information about what to expect in the world and how to solve problems in those situations. Ideally, you want your memory to be filled with useful information that helps you solve  life issues and for adults maybe tough business problems.

1. Engage both your body and mind. If you want to remember new ideas, you need to listen and focus. First, stop multitasking. “The human mind doesn’t multitask really, it timeshares.You end up flipping back and forth between tasks, which makes all of your learning less effective.To enhance your memory even more, engage your body as you listen. Sit up straight, take notes, stand up if you feel tired, gesture or move around a bit. Engage your whole self.We’re not just brains in a box.

2. Review three points you want to remember. When you learn new information (by reading a book or attending a meeting or when kids are  learning a new chapter at school, for example), you or your child  tends to remember only about three things. To control what you remember,review the three takeaways that matter most to you. Otherwise, you leave the three points up to chance.

When the information is fresh in your mind, take a few minutes to review the most useful points. Try writing them in a journal, or recounting them to a friend. That helps solidify those three points in your memory.

3. Explain new concepts to yourself. A rich memory helps you combine disparate ideas to find a novel solution. To do that, you need to understand how the world works. You gain that knowledge — and remember it — by explaining new concepts to yourself or to someone else. When you hear a new subject  matter or an  idea, look for gaps in your understanding and fill them in. Ask yourself, why does this work? How? The clearer the concepts, the easier they will be to remember.